You and me, we have magnetic power to attract what we want. What we are becomes our reality. It is not the other way around, such as ‘our reality makes us to who we are.’ It is, ‘who we are becomes our reality.’ What we think about will eventually manifest it. The law of attraction is no less true in my life. And I invite you to consider how your life has attracted what you first harbored inside. When was the last time you thought something good and something good happened to you? What about something bad?
In fact, tonight, I dare you to watch a movie and identify the emotion of that movie and then go straight to bed. I bet you that your dreams will carry that same emotion of the movie you watched. Your dreams will carry the emotions that you magnetized to yourself during the movie and you will most likely have a story line of behaviors and events in your dream that justify your emotions to some degree. For instance, if courage was the emotion you may find yourself defending the defenseless in your dream while simultaneously facing your fears.
I say courage because that is exactly what happened to me. I stayed up too late watching adventure movie trailers and woke this morning from a dream defending an innocent employee from an abusive drunken business owner. I don’t usually watch movies and this is the first dream I can remember ever actually fighting and rescuing the defenseless.
If this can occur in just one night, imagine developing a habit of positive thoughts and the positivity that will actually come to you, and not just in your dreams? I have seen this in my own life, how I see myself, others follow. This is partially true because others who see me differently, I ignore and do not allow their judgments to carry my attention.
Another quick example is found in skiing. I love skiing for several reasons, and one of those is how quickly the law of the harvest reaps it’s fruit. Although I started skiing 8 years ago, I only went once a year and it was hard to see any improvement. But 2 years ago, I purchased a season pass, howbeit late in the season, March, with only a month to spare. Knowing my time was short I made it to the slopes six times in the remaining five weeks. I skied more in the month of March and April of 2016 then I had my whole life. And I was amazed how much I improved in not only every ski day but also every run down the mountain. Each ski-chair lift was a time of meditation to push the limits from the prior run. I challenged myself and not a day went by without falling and skis flying unclipped, eventually I confidently fell down Double Black Diamonds; I eventually snaked down with ‘S’ turns and catching air, not the kind you see on YouTube but none the less personal record-worthy notes for me. The keys were that I enjoyed it, saw falling as part of the journey, kept practicing without judgment, and I believed I could ski like the other great skiers around me.
This, no less than 10 year-old, probably taught it best. Check it out below:
No one is an island. In order to achieve anything great, we all need the support of others. Therapy is a personal relationship to the things we attract and authoring our magnets into what we esteem as success. It is possible. What great thing will you start attracting today?
Written by Ryan Smith, LAMFT, Therapist, Center for Couples & Families – Holladay